There's a question hiding under this whole evening that she never asks: does she even like him? She moves from leading the date to letting him lead it, but either way the goal is to be liked. For years I did the same thing. I'd come home from a date and the only thing I'd been measuring all night was whether he liked me. Whether I liked him never came up. When I bring this up with my girlfriends, the laugh of recognition is immediate. So apparently I wasn't the only one running that particular software.
VERY true!! there's also an intentional tone of "serving" at the end, of "being of use". perhaps to make the wasted effort seem worthwhile? to give meaning to failure? to excuse apathy? many things exist at once.
i completely understand what you mean. i've been there, too. thank you so much for reading<3
"I could spare some of mine for his lack thereof, and maybe then he could be able to anchor himself for the next storm."
Wow, amazing writing, Lila! Have a beautiful day!
thank you for reading!! i appreciate you, always<3
There's a question hiding under this whole evening that she never asks: does she even like him? She moves from leading the date to letting him lead it, but either way the goal is to be liked. For years I did the same thing. I'd come home from a date and the only thing I'd been measuring all night was whether he liked me. Whether I liked him never came up. When I bring this up with my girlfriends, the laugh of recognition is immediate. So apparently I wasn't the only one running that particular software.
VERY true!! there's also an intentional tone of "serving" at the end, of "being of use". perhaps to make the wasted effort seem worthwhile? to give meaning to failure? to excuse apathy? many things exist at once.
i completely understand what you mean. i've been there, too. thank you so much for reading<3
this is amazing wow 🤩
thank you very much<3
I hope he paid for the drinks.
he forgot his wallet
It’s a sad story 😢
I have a feeling that dating has never been ideal throughout the ages. One plus about modern dating is that we have a lot of options. 😉